I have a lot going on in my head. About work. About boys. About friends. About the feels. I need something to get seriously lost in. It can be instrumental or have vocals. Make me cry. Make me happy. Move me.
I’ve spent the past couple of days asking several hundred Grindr users in Edinburgh whether they believe Scotland should be an independent country. Replies were of variable quality. Here is a representative sample:
This was asked by an anon. His ask was too long to fit in one submission, so this is just me putting them together. Anon asks:
“Last week I was out of town and a guy started talking to me on grindr. He didn’t have a profile pic or any information at all but I gave him a shot. It turned out he is 34 and he seems to be into much younger guys. I told him I’m just looking to chat with other gays since I’m new to the whole community, but he keeps calling me shit like cutie, honey and pretty and it’s getting really awkward. (See next message for the full text, please.) (See previous message for the full text, please.) Everyday he’s asking me multiple times how I’m doing, what I’m up to and that he wants to skype or meet me, even though he’s living about a 100 miles away from me. I’m not the kind of person who blocks people out of his life and hurts them intentionally, especially if I might see him on the streets (not sure if I’m moving to that town). It starts to freak me out and I don’t know how to proceed. Any suggestions?”
I’ve encountered things like that before, in which someone I was not interested in at all was just overly nice and talked to me very sweetly. My best advice is just to bring it up that you are only interested in being friends, and nothing further. Some older men (40’s and even 50s) who I have talked to have become pretty good friends of mine, and they have been around the gay block many more times than you or I have. They are usually pretty good about listening to your problems and giving you advice. And a lot of the time, they are not very judgmental. Now trying to meet you and skype you might seem a little weird to you. And if you’re not comfortable with that, let him know. (I don’t even like skyping with friends.) If he takes it badly, then whatever, he was after something that he wasn’t going to get. But I believe if you’re mature about it, he’ll be mature as well.